Hinting
The sweet ache of anticipation
Ignore, In a Good Way
Hinting is driving by, but not really knocking on the door... yet. You can build anticipation and intensify pleasure by moving toward a sensitive spot, over and over, but only occasionally touching it. Think of it as a series of playful fake-outs before indulging with attention, then moving right back to even more teasing approaches.
Diana - “It’s All About the Anticipation”
Ignore, In a Good Way
Hinting is driving by, but not really knocking on the door... yet. You can build anticipation and intensify pleasure by moving toward a sensitive spot, over and over, but only occasionally touching it. Think of it as a series of playful fake-outs before indulging with attention, then moving right back to even more teasing approaches.
Hinting Variations
Variation 1: Hinting the Entire Area
With this approach, during warm-up you touch gently everywhere but the lips and clit. You can move from thigh to thigh, skipping over the area or veer around it at the last second. Many refer to this as “completely ignoring the vulva.” (But don’t worry, it is not forgotten, friends!)
65% of women love hinting the entire areaVariation 2: Hinting the Opening
With this approach, you move near the opening and just almost go in... but then you don’t. You can repeat this over and over, and may occasionally go in just a little bit, but it’s more of a drive-by than a stay-for-a-visit sort of thing. You can use circular motions around the border of the opening or move from the clit hood down to beneath the opening, penetrating just a little bit during some passes. Or you can keep a finger, toy or penis on the point of just almost about to go in while stimulating the clit.
73% of women love hinting the openingWhat It Feels Like
“I tell my husband, in advance, that I’m going to say put it in… but not to listen. Because I know it’ll be even better the longer he holds out.”
“For me, what makes it most pleasurable is if I constantly have something to look forward to - like it’s constantly about to go in, but I don’t know when.”
Variation 3: Hinting the Clit
With this technique, you repeatedly approach the clit but only occasionally indulge it with attention. Some women like to move side-to-side, passing over the clit and grazing it from time to time. Others enjoy moving up and down on the labia, stopping short of the clit or weaving around it, sprinkling in a few direct touches.
71% of women love hinting the clitBringing it to the Bedroom
Helpful Guidelines
- Repetition is your friend. Repeating it over and over builds anticipation.
- A light touch. Less pressure is usually better.
- Get irregular. Avoid a pattern (for example, touch on every third pass) because it can become predictable.
Most Common Challenges
- Too brief. This technique needs a few minutes. Just a few sets of hints don’t usually build noticeable anticipation.
- Too fast. Elongate the time it “almost” touches by slowing the stroke.
- Too often. Employ fewer “almost” touches to let the anticipation build.
